Thursday, May 10, 2018


Writer's note: I apologize for not having "Pride and Joy" as scheduled. However it will be available in the very near future.


We depend on so many things. Do we insist or do we expect everything to function properly all of the time? Is it our demanding or assuming nature as human beings that our computer works when we turn it on, the toilet function properly when we flush it, our furnace operates appropriately when we switch it on or our vehicle immediately starts when we turn the key? Yes, we certainly anticipate more than a few things in our lives. As time passes by, I think a lot of us (myself included) take people for granted, not in a deceiving practice but in our subconscious...a harmless and unselfish manner. It's part of our human nature mindset.

People perform favours for other folks. Individuals help, assist and support one another. Their good deeds and acts of kindness are always appreciated. One group of human beings that transpires into that category are recognized as MOTHERS. They have alternative names such as MAMA, MA, MOMMY and MOM. They "wear" many hats and their job description is very extensive. They do a fantastic job trying to achieve all of their duties.

Let's talk about childbirth for a moment, just thinking about it plants my mind into a new dimension of pain. To help produce a child is very easy for a man, with the exception of the male seahorse...that fish gives birth. For the human male it's, two, three, wham bam, thank you ma'am. Meanwhile, when a woman becomes pregnant, she is constantly going through a period of physical and emotional adjustment.

In the meantime us guys continue our daily routine and habits. We have no idea what women are experiencing with the new and strange physiological and mental changes to their bodies. Childbirth consists of agony and discomfort. It's truly amazing how women deal with and tolerate that degree of suffering, but somehow they do it, many more than once.

According to Stats Canada there were 4.1 million Canadian MOTHERS in 2011 and 447,700 stay at home MOTHERS with at least one child in 2016. The nineteenth century saw MOTHERS conducting all household responsibilities including raising the children. It wasn't until the 1940's we saw a lot of women enter the workforce on a full time basis in various fields of employment.

My mother (R.I.P. and God rest her soul) was one of those ladies. She would work Monday to Friday at her nine to five office job. MOM started her career as a bookkeeper in 1960. When she finished her stretch at the office MOM would arrive home and begin her second stint of work. She would prepare supper and afterwards wash the dirty dishes. It never "dawned on me" or my father (R.I.P. and God rest your soul) that we should have got off our fat asses to assist her. On weekends she would continue to make breakfast, lunch and dinner as well as clean the house and do laundry.

I know my MOTHER wasn't the only MOM who executed multiple tasks. When I look at it now, I have to ask myself the question, when did these women receive a break from their unlimited and never ending chores? Another question arises...did we really appreciate our MOTHERS to the hilt, probably not.

Mothers have plenty of talents. They keep families shoulder to shoulder and manage family stress better. When a child comes home crying because they have fallen down and scraped their knee it's MOMMY who comforts and eases the pain of the wailing youngster. The majority of the time it was MOM who made their offspring's lunch for school. And it's MOMMY who is their when their child is sick showing compassion and reassurance, trying to soothe the ill little one.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. The only gender who are best suited to perform the obligations of a MOTHER are females. Women are the best MOTHERS and men are the best fathers. The L.G.B.T.I.Q/Q (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, Intersex, Queer/Questioning) can LIKE IT OR LUMP IT!

Sadly, every so often MOMMY's pass away while their child/children are very young. Death is never welcomed and always unwanted at any time, but to lose either parent (since I'm talking about MOMS) specifically a MOTHER, it's absolutely heartbreaking. I was lucky but I do have friends that weren't as fortunate as I was, losing their MOM'S when they were attending school...tragic and devastating.

Women are second to none when we talk about taking care of, looking after, tending and raising children. They are foremost and the finest when we speak of nurturing. It's in their physical makeup-blood, genes and cells. As usual though, nothing is perfect and there is always one or two rotten apples in the bushel.

We have all heard the saying "the wicked stepmother." It's a stereotype phrase for stepmothers who are hateful, mean spirited, insensitive and at times physically hurtful. It probably still occurs but not as rampant as it use to be. Occasionally my MOTHER had mentioned to me her stepmother (circa 1925) was evil and unkind. My E.A. (Executive Assistant) has always been a magnificent and wonderful stepmother to my sons. She consistently shows love, respect and courtesy towards my two boys.

When I was in grade six at Mohawk Trail Public School in Hamilton, Ontario I recall our class had to memorize a poem titled, "Somebody's MOTHER) by Mary Dow Brine 1816-1913. The verse is quite sad and very true to life. Check it out, it might bring a tear to your eye.


So to all the MOMS out there, past, present and future enjoy Sunday May 13/18. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.

The End

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